Some Sad Reading in the Happiest City

by Stephanie Lovegrove February 14, 2010

I live in Boulder, which has just been named the happiest city in the country! But this happy person has a confession to make: I love sad poems. Love reading them, love writing them. And I don't think I'm alone. In the poetry bookclub that I run, it's often the case that the favorite poems of the group are not the "sweet" ones or the "touchy feely" ones, but the ones that devastate you with poignant images and metaphors, almost all of which are sad. In my writing group last week, every poem dealt with a death or a divorce or a loss of some kind. And they were beautiful! What is it about them? One could argue that someone's sadness can be easier to relate to than someone's happiness, since the things that makes us sad are often more universal than the things that make us happy. Or there could be a sense of relief in reading about someone else's pain (and therefore being separate from it). Or maybe there's more of a wealth of metaphors for sadness. I got to thinking about this topic over Valentine's Day when I was considering writing a love poem for my boyfriend. This is hard. I once had a writing group where we challenged ourselves to write a love poem that held merit AS A POEM, for readers outside of the intended love. Only two people could write ANYTHING! More input on this topic came from Sandra Beaslee:

I’ve been writing love poems. Or rather, I’ve been trying to write love poems. To be precise, I’ve been cursing the blank page where my love poems should be. I’m in love, damn it. Where are the poems? When I’m sad, I can write about sadness. When I took a cable car up Mount Pilatus, I could describe the view from 7,000 feet. . . . William Butler Yeats, in “Meditations in Time of Civil War,” diagnosed the problem. “Only an aching heart,” he said, “Conceives a changeless work of art.”
In the end, I have no answer to the riddle of what draw sad poems have. I know I love reading poems that make me ache for the writer, that reveal a grand hope or truth in a moment of despair. But I also know a good love poem when I see it. Here's a few that blow me out of the water as much as any: Quality of Wine, by Hayden Carruth
This wine is really awful I’ve been drinking for a year now, my retirement, Rossi Chablis in a jug from Oneida Liquors; plonk, the best I can afford, awful. But at least I can afford it, I don’t need to go out and beg on the street like the guys on South Warren in Syracuse, eyes burning in their sockets like acid. And my sweetheart rubs my back when I’m knotted in arthritis and swollen muscles. The five stages of death are fear, anger, resentment, renunciation, and – ? Apparently the book doesn’t say what the fifth stage is. And neither does the wine. Is it happiness? That’s what I think anyway, and I know I’ve been through fear and anger and resentment and at least part way through renunciation too, maybe almost the whole way. A slow procedure, like calling the Medicare office, on hold for hours and then the recorded voice says, “Hang up and dial again.” Yet the days hasten, they go by fast enough. They fucking fly like the wind. Oh, Sweetheart, Mrs. Manitou of the Stockbridge Valley, my Red Head, my Absecon Lakshmi of the Marshlights, my beautiful, beautiful Baby Doll, let the dying be long.
And one more: [somewhere i have never travelled], by e.e. cummings
somewhere i have never travelled, gladly beyond any experience,your eyes have their silence: in your most frail gesture are things which enclose me, or which i cannot touch because they are too near your slightest look easily will unclose me though i have closed myself as fingers, you open always petal by petal myself as Spring opens (touching skilfully, mysteriously) her first rose or if your wish be to close me, i and my life will shut very beautifully, suddenly, as when the heart of this flower imagines the snow carefully everywhere descending; nothing which we are to perceive in this world equals the power of your intense fragility: whose texture compels me with the color of its countries, rendering death and forever with each breathing (i do not know what it is about you that closes and opens; only something in me understands the voice of your eyes is deeper than all roses) nobody, not even the rain, has such small hands
Photo credit: Snow Bike by Robbie Sproule


Stephanie Lovegrove
Stephanie Lovegrove

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Stephanie Lovegrove had two poems featured in Ruminate's Issue #04, and was so impressed with the magazine that she volunteered to work for them. She served as Ruminate's poetry editor from 2007-2014. Since 2002, she has worked in the book business--at literary magazines, publishers, and bookstores, and as a freelance copyeditor. She holds degrees in English (with a focus on creative writing), classics, and linguistics. She currently lives in Charlottesville, Virginia, where she works in marketing for the University of Virginia Press. Her work has appeared in Gulf Coast, Cream City Review, and Poet Lore, among other journals.



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