3 Parties Per Weekend
On average 3 parties per weekend. One Saturday, 5 in one day. My husband and I divided and conquered and actually made every party that day, but not without consequences. The kids were a mess, jacked up on sugar, and convinced for days after, that every moment should be filled with intense activity. We love celebrating these special moments with the people we care about. But as a pastor’s family, we are learning that we love others better if our family is happy and healthy i.e. a little less frantic. In the midst of these activity-filled weekends, I came across an article by writer Anne Lamott
on Sunset Magazine
’s website (I was initially looking for a recipe for a baby shower) called “Time Lost and Found.” She writes about the sacrifice we must make to pursue creative activities, a sacrifice that is well worth it. She tells her writing students that she gets their struggle to find this time. And then her words hit very close to home: I know how addictive busyness and mania are. But I ask them whether, if their children grow up to become adults who spend this one precious life in a spin of multitasking, stress, and achievement, and then work out four times a week, will they be pleased that their kids also pursued this kind of whirlwind life? If not, if they want much more for their kids, lives well spent in hard work and savoring all that is lovely, why are they living this manic way? Whew… I want to “savor all that is lovely,” and I want my children to do the same. So I’m praying that we as a family can find the best way to savor this wonderful life and the wonderful friends God has blessed us with. And maybe even find a little time to write.
Amy Lowe has served as senior editor and co-founder for Ruminate Magazine since 2006. Many of the fiction and nonfiction pieces she has worked with have gone on to receive Pushcart Prizes and notable mentions in the Best American Short Story anthology and Best American Essay anthology. She has taught English literature and composition for ten years at the secondary and college level. And she sees it as a great honor when authors, both new and newly read as well as seasoned and recognized, entrust her with their writing. She finds great joy in connecting audiences with beautiful and important pieces and believes in the power of a good story to both illuminate and transform. And mostly she loves how a story allows you to see the world from another person’s perspective.
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